You can hardly go on the internet these days without people complaining about “unrealistic beauty/body standards” and how society expects them to look like “the ideal.” My question to that is who? Who expects you to look “ideal?” Has anyone who wasn’t a complete jackass ever come up to you and told you that you need to work harder at looking exactly like a magazine cover model? That you’ll never get married or find a partner or achieve happiness without being a size 0 with 6 pack abs, pearly white teeth, and a perfect 0.7 waist to hip ratio?
In this article I get a dose of reality about mortgage rates and buying houses, and share my findings with the world.
I periodically get emails from Zillow telling me about houses nearby and whether they’ve price dropped. I got one recently for a house that’s currently on the market for $72,500. I thought, wow, what a great deal! I wonder what that would cost me per month? So, just for fun, I decided to go use a mortgage calculator to find out what that type of mortgage would cost me per month. Mortgage rates today, per The Washington Post, are 3.59%. I put 4% into the calculator just to be safe. It gave me a figure of $346.13 per month for 30 years.
I don’t want to get too into this right now, I just want to get my thoughts out on it. I’m sick of people thinking that liberals or anyone who supports Bernie Sanders or Democratic Socialism wants everything handed to them. I don’t want everything handed to me. I appreciate the feeling of accomplishment and pride that working to support myself gives. I don’t even want free college (though cheaper college would be good).
No, what I really want are valid safety nets and good social programs. I want people to be able to take monetary risks (like starting a business or a family or investing) without fear of becoming homeless and dying. I want to be able to go rollerblading without fearing I may bankrupt myself by breaking my arm. I want to know that if I do break my arm and can’t work, I won’t end up on the streets. I want to know that in the future when automation kills half the jobs, that I don’t have to worry about being mugged by some poor former McDonald’s employee that’s just trying to survive.
I need to get a few things out of the way before I start this post.
- I don’t hate fat people. I’m fat and I know how hard it is. I don’t care what other people do to their bodies. What I do care about is people spreading misinformation and lies, and harming other people.
- Overweight and obesity are objective, medical terms. This article is more talking about obesity. Being a little overweight, while still harmful to your health, is not as bad for you as obesity and its many classifications.
- Obesity is bad for you. This is not up for debate. If you’re going to try to debate this point, waste your time elsewhere.
- Obesity is always caused by overeating. There are some conditions that can cause you to overeat, or to cause your body to burn fewer calories (which just means you need to consume fewer calories), but that does not mean the condition is not caused by too much food. This is also not up for debate, and if you’re going to try to debate this point, waste your time elsewhere.
- I do not advocate fat shaming. Calling people names and treating them like shit has only been shown to cause them to engage further in their destructive behaviors. But there is a difference between being mean and being truthful. There is a difference between calling someone fat and suggesting that maybe they shouldn’t eat so much, or telling them that their behavior is unhealthy.
Now then. In this post, I am going to talk about why the fat acceptance movement is harmful, and why the normalization of obesity is bad. I already covered a lot of this in another article, but I feel it’s worth writing about again and in more depth as I’ve been exposed to the movement as a whole much more than the last time I wrote about it. This is going to be a long one, so if you’re too lazy to read the very important points below, skip to the bottom for the TL;DR.
So I was arguing on reddit recently about paid family leave and employment benefits in general. Arguments were the typical “well if you want paid family leave, you should have waited to have kids until you were in a better position to get a better job” or “if you can’t afford kids, just don’t have sex” or “if you want any benefits at work or in life at all, you should have gotten more skills and got a better job.” This is my response to that. It’s not exactly an argument for anything (though I do support universal basic income and universal healthcare), but more an argument against these shitty ass arguments.
I was diagnosed with depression when I was around 16. For the longest time, I’ve suffered from the attitude of “what’s the point?” Why keep on living? Why try to achieve anything? Why do anything at all? You’re just going to die anyway. This attitude conflicts with my severe fear of death and is just an overall unpleasant and depressing attitude to have. Every time I’d try to do something, be it start working out, writing a book, painting a picture, or just trying to enjoy my life, I’d be bombarded of intrusive thoughts of “why are you doing this? Nothing matters, you’re just going to die anyway.”
Well recently, I came up with something that has helped me push these thoughts away. It’s a pretty simple concept, and it may not work for everyone, but it works for me. Whenever I start to think “why try when you’re just going to die?” I replace the thought with “because it’s my job to live.” When I think of living my life as some duty that I have to fulfill, it just helps for some reason. I don’t believe in God or any sort of higher power, but when I pretend that I was put on this earth with the sole point of living, I just feel better about it. I can do my job (live my life) and when it’s over, I’m done and it’s okay.
The attitude of “what’s the point of doing anything when it has an end?” is a stupid, irrational one. With that logic, why go to work? The work day is just going to be over, so why should I even start it? Why start a new video game or a movie or a book when you know it’s just going to end? Because the journey is enjoyable (or necessary, when it comes to work), that’s why.
This might not work for everyone, like I said. But if I don’t think about it too much, it works for me. Living my life is what I was put on this earth to do, and I’m going to do my best at accomplishing it.
A great example of one of the worst liars and con artists of the fat acceptance movement to date.
This article is going to talk about why the fat acceptance movement is bad. It uses examples of arguments and talking points that many of the people of the movement use. I’ve provided screenshots for each point showing an example of each talking point. If you still don’t believe me that people actually say these things, all you need to do is visit the tumblr blog This Is Thin Privilege. It’s full of whiny assholes that complain about not being able to find cute clothes, being “fat shamed” by doctors telling them they need to lose weight, and other various ridiculous things.
Now before we get started, I want to emphasize that I think body positivity is good. But body positivity is not the same thing as fat acceptance. Body positive means accepting your flaws. QueenSkittlez of reddit says it best:
“I consider myself body positive in that self-acceptance and self-love and being content with things you can’t change are things I advocate. Body positivity is loving your freckles, being okay with not being a natural hourglass or being a 6’2″ woman in a world of shorties. Body positivity can include weight in healthy ranges. Body positivity also means making changes out of love and not hatred. I chose to lose weight because it is my preferred aesthetic, I can still be body positive while making changes. I can dye or alter my hair and be body positive. I can tan or be pale and be body positive. Hell, if I wanted breast implants even though I’m satisfied with my breasts right now but I’d be more satisfied if they were different, that is my choice and I am still body positive. Changing my aesthetic in a way you don’t like doesn’t make me less body positive. Body positivity isn’t about being fat. It’s about loving yourself and your flaws and working to improve yourself and not hate the body you have.”
Now that we’ve got that out of the way, here are ten reasons why the Fat Acceptance movement is harmful.
As it’s almost the end of February, I realize it’s a bit late to be making new year’s resolutions. But who cares!
Yesterday someone was very mean to me on the internet. They overreacted to something that I said, stalked my comment history, and basically called me fat and told me I didn’t deserve to live. It upset me more than it should have. It really kind of ruined my entire day. So I’ve resolved to do a couple things in regards to my commenting on the internet:
EDIT: I’m lumping HAES in with Fat Acceptance in this post. Many of the same people preach both. Deal with it.
I’ve been reading a lot about the HAES (health at every size) movement lately, and quite frankly, I’m sick of it. So here are some very rambly opinions on it.
1. No one is out to get fat people. Yes, fat people are bullied. So are all sorts of other people. Fat people even bully other people regularly, calling thin people “skinny bitches” and saying things like “real men want meat, not bones”. Just because you’re being bullied doesn’t mean you need to start an entire movement to combat it. Also, how can you say Health at EVERY Size if that doesn’t include skinny people? You can’t have it both ways. Just be honest and say “Health at MY Size” or “Health as a Fatass”.
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